Leaderships start with knowing wanting something is not the same as needing it as. Needs are food water and shelter. Wanting is an emotional reaction to pleasure. So what does this have to do with our identity?
Every person has needs and wants. Parents step into the roll of leadership they give their children what they need and what they want to support them. We are exposed early to outside influences that affect the way we think. It is the media and judgment from our peers that cause us pain or pleasure. This may trigger confusion on the difference between what our needs and wants really are.
Seeing, hearing, smelling and touching are the tool we inherited to survive. Listening with your senses started at birth, how we react to what we need as babies is natural. As we grow and understand how to get what we want, our parents place boundaries on us and introduced us to discipline. A child learns early that they are at the mercy of their family and will learn how to respond to get what they need. If you’re told repeatedly that you need and deserve something even when you don’t, you won’t understand the difference between a need and a want. Disciplined is setting the boundaries.
Discipline is training a state of improved behavior, improvement of physical power and self-control. Our brain is the key to getting what we need and want. If you are a victim to your emotions then you need to discipline your brain to act instead of reacting to the emotional triggers around you. You have to practice everything so that your brain knows what it has to do on its own. Just knowing you have to do something, is not enough.
Example: I am over weight because I have bad eating habits, there for I have to practice good eating habits to change the bad habits. I have a bad temper. No you have a bad habit triggered from an emotional behavior. You will only have self-control when you practice it. He is the best player on the team because he practiced until he could act with complete control over the game he plays.
Your brain will tell your body what to do when you practice it. If you don’t replace bad habits with good habits they will control your life. A computer is like a brain, unfortunately our brain doesn’t have the software to improve its performance. You are not what anyone tells you, you are what you tell yourself. All you have to do is listen to what you are telling your brain to do. If you tell yourself you don’t know how to something, you won’t. Your brain will not know what to do until you educate it to do so. Discipline yourself by practicing what you have to do and then act on your training.
Just because you put the uniform on doesn’t mean that your brain will tell your body how to play the game. You have to do your home work! You have to practice, know the game inside and out, then and only then you are ready to play in the game.
People fall victim to the world around them. You want to stand out in the crowd you have to practice discipline. In order to practice you need to find the training. You are not a player until you get in the game.
It is your life and your choices that define who you are, be accountable to yourself. Practice it, so you can stand out as a person of excellence. If you want what I have and are not willing to work for it, you can’t have it. Don’t throw a fit to get where you want to be. I had to change the way what I was doing to get what I need to live the way I want. I study it and practice it until I gained the skills to act without emotion when making decisions. , standout and be the example. People will follow your lead.